What an ironic "comparison", especially since I'm a black guy. (smh)
Maybe I should explain why I asked the question in the first place. There's a certain lady who I have to interact with whenever I go to the local court to get stories for my newspaper...she manages to grate on my nerves by the simple fact that she talks incessantly, she constantly asks your opinion on EVERYTHING and doesn't let up even when you (tactfully) point out that you just don't have an opinion on the subject, she's overly sensitive and doesn't take criticism well, she gets upset when you point out that she needs to speak less and pay attention to what the judge and lawyers are saying, she gossips about people and shares all manner of stuff I would rather not hear, and then when she fails to listen to the judge and lawyers she turns around and asks for clarification on what they said - clarification that she could have had if she had just KEPT QUIET FOR FIVE MINUTES AND PAID ATTENTION. And avoiding her isn't an option since going to court for stories is part of my work beat, so inevitably I'm going to run into her. And if that wasn't bad enough, she calls me on the phone after court to ask for extra clarification on stuff that (wait for it) she could have heard if she had SHUT UP AND PAID ATTENTION.
That's my own unique situation, and so far I'm trying to bear with the situation (with clenched teeth, mind you). What I'm asking is, how many of you have, or have had, similarly annoying people in your daily lives and how do you/did you deal with them?
Ah, so it's not the fact that she exists, it's the fact that she does a lot of annoying things
I'm just being a smartass, but now that you've fully explained the problem I can offer a better solution, or 3.Solution A:
Anonymous letter. Type up a kind letter carefully explaining the many things she's doing that bug you, and probably many other people. Leave it somewhere she'll find it with her name on it, and at the very least she'll become self-conscious about the things she's doing.Possible Repercussion A:
She might commit suicide.Solution B:
Ask her out on a date. She obviously likes you, otherwise she wouldn't talk to you so much and call you. If you're dating she has an opportunity to talk to you as much as she wants and get it all out of her system. And you have an opportunity to talk to her about the things she does that annoy you. Also, she can't talk much if her mouth is full...Possible Repercussion B:
She denies you and it get's awkward (but less talking is a +), OR she get's angry about the things you bring up and airs out all of your personal business in public, OR she falls deeply in love with you and has endless things to say.Solution C:
Be an asshole. Nobody want's an assholes opinion, nobody wants to talk to an asshole, and absolutely nobody will call an asshole to ask for anything.Possible Repercussion C:
She reports it to your boss and you get fired, OR she begins make public insults and talks about you behind your back.